I've been with my husband for 20 years. And I think i've only now realized i'm married to a fucking drama queen. When it's convenient to him he starts the whining, complaining, passive aggressive remarks....even when its not even the whole truth. It's like taking things out of context to suit your needs. It's a bunch of bullshit that I do not tolerate. And more then half of the stuff spewing from his mouth is stuff he just assumes because and some point in time I gave him a certain answer, opinion or whatever so suddenly, because it suits the need now, that word is god. Whatever. If I tried pulling that shit I would get an earful.
I'm so not submissive when it comes to being blamed. I seriously won't stand for it. I'll go at it until he wears down. Mainly because I won't allowed to be blamed or accused for something that suddenly turns into words to fit his situation. Hypocrites suck!
Now picking a fight due to unrelated stress or exhaustion. Don't even get me started. I so won't tolerate that B.S. I will go at you like im throwing an unlimited supply of daggers straight to your face. That is rude. That is uncalled for. That is just fucked up. Take it out somewhere else: run, exercise, swim...whatever outlet you have, do it. But to take it out, disguised as a stupid argument for a even stupider reason is not right. Words will be said and you will not be able to take it back. In the end you're the one that's going to look like the worlds biggest asshole. When this happens to me I like to sit there with an asshole smirk on my face and the occasional shit eating grin also makes an appearance. I'm purposely going to infuriate you more then i'm going to come back with a vengeance.
You would think after all this time my guy would know this by now. Nope, he makes the same mistakes over and over. Barely owns up to his asshole moves. I mean if you're going to argue with me, make it legitimate. I don't want to argue about the kids because you had a rough day at work. I don't want to be told that because 9 months ago I said I didn't want to switch sizes on the bed you suddenly have a freakout with me about getting D to sleep. Stupid.
Be honest and upfront. If something is on your mind say it out loud so we can remedy it. IF you need something ask because if something didn't agree with me 2 years ago, you know there's a pretty good chance the answer today will be different. Arguing over bullshit topics because you're tired or stressed is so not for me. I'm going to be pissed for a really long tme and will chalk this up to one of your asshole moments and really, I don't want another chalkboard so I can add a new hash mark. Nip shit in the bud, handle your scandal and lets all move on.