Naming your Kid

First off there will be no more babies in this house.  That in itself can be a separate post for another day.  But I do want to ramble on about naming your kid.

Each time I found out I was pregnant thinking of names was the underlying discussion for the entire 9-months of my pregnancy. Did this happen to you?  The commitment and pressure of choosing a name for another human being is huge.  You are setting them up with an identity right out of the gate.  

We started with lists of names we each liked, then narrowed it down.  We then obsessed over the social security website and looked at the list of top 100 names for the past 5-10 years.  The plan was if any of our names showed up in the top 10 in the past 5-10 years we immediately crossed it off.  Neither my  husband and I grew up with names that we had to share with classmates and we did not want that for our child(ren). We were both pretty adamant of unique, but not weird.  Nice sounding and we did not want to knowingly pick a longish name that would immediately shortened, like Katherine=Kathy, Jennifer=Jen, etc... 

Besides naming a child a name that will be quickly shortened to a more casual version like the above, my other naming pet peeve is oddball spelling of names.  Why do people do this?  Is it to be different or cool?  To me, it comes off as being illiterate and childish.  Why, people, why????

I don't share my kids names on here but they all have pretty special names.  My oldest has had one instance in preschool with another kid in his class having the same name.  And of all three of my kids his is probably the most popular but still not super common.  He has a Hawaiian name but its also a name, with identical spelling, in Welsh, Scottish and German.  But no matter, I like his name and he loves his name!  

With each of my kids we didn't have a solid plan of what we were planning on naming them prior to giving birth.  We maybe went into the hospital with 3 top choices and a couple of choices for middle names.  We figured armed with a combination of a few names we would make the decision once we saw them.  With the boys we easily selected a first and middle name with the list we were armed with.  With my daughter, we had a hard time.  We had a modest list of names we liked.  Both my husband and I didn't really love each other's first choices but would agree on giving her one of them as a middle name or names.  The only thing we both agreed on was a second middle name, which would be a Hawaiian name.  She is the only child with two middle names.  When she was born the name we thought we were going to give her was tossed out her window.  We took one look at her and knew it wasn't the name for her.  One of the names on my list of faves ended up becoming her first name, a name my husband wasn't totally sold on until he laid eyes on her and realized thats what she had to be named.  It was quite the natural process naming her, well all of them.  It seemed right. To look at them, and being able to just tell what they should be named.

One of my favorite things to do when I was pregnant, and honestly I still enjoy it, is reading the top "whatever" names.....  Like this one, and this one and this is pretty damn funny, especially if you think this is important.  Honestly, an email address being available is more important to me.

Naming your kid is a personal decision, yet everyone wants to weigh in on it.  Just don't, okay.  Let soon to be parents make their own decisions and love their own choices, they don't care what you think nor do they appreciate you making them feel bad or awkward about their choices.  If you don't love the name keep it to yourself, you are not doing anyone any favors.  Baby naming is a big responsibility and everyone has their own naming conventions and each name is special to those who dish it out.  I love my kid's names and never once have questioned my choice in choosing their names. 

Five Things - Week of September 22

This weeks five things list is all from Elizabeth & James.  If you haven't glanced at the Olsen Twin's line before you really should as they are producing some really nice things.  Like, really nice!  I've always admired their style, those ladies are chic, ahead of the curve and always look comfortable in what they are wearing.

The five items I selected are clothing items I would wear regularly and would quickly become my favorites.  I mean lamb skin pants, the perfect knitted tank and all that leopard especially that high, waisted zip front skirt.  I want it all!

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Sartorial Thursday (on a Friday): Fall Dressing

There's a strip of trees in my neighborhood that are starting to change.  Leaves of copper, gold and red are appearing and falling to the curb.  It's surprising and quite literally sprung up on me.  I love fall, the crisp air, the early sunsets, and the beautiful foliage.  The odd thing is we are still having beautiful weather.  The sun is shining and the temps are still warm.  So these fall leaves are quite a shock.

I know the crisp air will creep up on us soon enough.  When we do have a cooler evening I fantasize of boots and scarves and layers but until that weather really hits us its still shorts and dresses and tank tops.

But like I said, Fall will be here soon and my closet will be rotated.  If I could have the perfect outfit to kick off fall this would be it!

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Weight Loss Journey: Training Day 2

Between my first session and todays, second session my legs and my lats have been in crazy achey pain.  Walking up and down stairs have been challenging.  My kids are confused why I do this to myself.  I can explain that this is a good thing until i'm blue in the face but they don't get it.  

Workout aches are good.  I welcome it.

Although I have been in pain I have continued to work out at home; elliptical and crunches and stretches. I attempted to do push ups but my lats and upper arms were much to sore and I couldn't even push out more than two.

I persevere. 

Today's session was fantastic.  My legs still ached just not as bad and I held my head up and powered through even if at some point I had to lower the weight to get through.  We did 4 groups of circuits today.  Arms,  legs, core and arms again and ended the session with a one minute plank..  It was AWESOME!  I sweated like nobody's business and I felt so proud of myself for getting through.

I have severely tapered down my meals and am eating 1000 calories per day.  Everyday I'm making food choices that are interesting and filling.  I do need to do some research on meal ideas and I'm hoping to get into the habit of meal prepping for the week this weekend or next weekend.  This journey is interesting, for sure.

I feel like even though I'm getting used to eating so little calories, but high protein meals, my body still needs to adjust.  I find myself getting a little irritable with the kiddos.  It makes me laugh because I see this in the kids when they are hungry.  But I am aware of what is happening and I know that as the days go by my body will balance out.  I'm drinking a lot of water which means i'm peeing a lot!  100 oz of water per day, minimum, is crazy town.  I always have my water with me.  

It's important to me to follow through with all of this, hence my trainer.  In the last 10 days I have lost 3lbs and I'm proud of that.  I'm hoping by tuesday that number will be four, and i'll be on track for 2 lbs per week.  Yeah!

The journey continues.


Weight Loss Journey: Training Day 1

So this is me.  I gained 10lbs over the summer but it feels like 50lbs!  I'm slightly mortified that I am actually posting these photos but I feel it holds me accountable.  Yes, I may have like 3 readers, if I'm lucky, but still it makes me feel accountable.  I want to drop a bunch of weight, i've hired a personal trainer and had my first session.  This is my journey.....

Yesterday, a week after my initial consultation, I had my first personal training session.  I was super excited about it and was actually looking forward to it during the weekend.  I really didn't know what to expect except that it was going to be much more intense then my usual workouts.  I started the first session down 2lbs.  from the previous Tuesday!

My first session started off slow.  Much of the time my trainer was correcting and instructing on proper form and showing me some new exercises I would be doing.  We did free weights, some machines, some cardio and some strengthening.  To add another dimension to what i'm used to the trainer had me on fit balls, half fit balls and some balancing pads while using the weights.  It was challenging and after one or two reps I could definitely see the benefit of this technique.  On my own I would have never gotten on any type of balance anything while doing weights.

I did a lot of lunges, a lot of squats both with and without weights.  I did crunches of all sorts.  I new I was going to hurt the next day.

Today I am hurting.  My legs ache.  My lats and shoulders ache.  My core aches.  Truthfully I'm digging the ache.  I know I worked muscle groups that haven't been worked in a while.  I know there will be payoff soon enough.  This is all worth it to me.  

Along with the training i'm getting help with a nutritional component to all of this.  They go hand in hand.  I really learned my lesson about this 2 years ago and saw the results in a matter of months.  My trainer will be tracking my eating habits and help me work on some meals to get me through the next few months.  We have a target daily calorie intake of 1100-1200 as well as ensuring i'm eating 6 small meals per day with a maximum calorie cap up to 200-220 per meal (we're still working on the magic numbers but these are ballpark).  This is a MAJOR change for me.  But today has been good.  With lots of water in-between I really haven't had any cravings.  I've stuck to my small meals/snacks.  I'll need to work on getting a teensy bit of variety in my meals and figuring out how to get maximum fullness with the little I have to work with.  My third meal today consisted of a veggie patty, spinach and raspberries.  I chopped up the patty and made a spinach salad out of all of it.  It was good and really filling and super low cal.  

I can do this!

No, I can rock this!

The days that I do not work with my trainer i'm keeping up with my own cardio either elliptical or walking and adding in some of the strengthening exercises I was taught.  Today it was all about working on my core along with elliptical.

This is the start of my journey and i'm super excited.



Tomorrow's the day I start my personal training.  I'm excited.  Like, really, really excited.  I want to get down to my goal wait by the new year but would love to see  tiny results before Halloween.

I took this weekend as my last hurrah and indulged in some local beer at Hilliards brewery and some yummy grub with friends.  

Starting this upcoming week i'll be on a strict regulated meal plan dished out by my trainer and the workouts will come hard and fast.  Yes, I work out everyday (except Sunday, a girls muscles has to rest) so that is nothing new but the type of work out I'll be doing will change.  

I embrace change and physical change with me is more then welcome!!!  Bring it on.


Going Gray

Is going gray a good thing or a bad thing.  I know for certain its an unavoidable thing.  It happens to the best of us.  Some of us are lucky enough to go gray later in life while others go gray in their 20s.  Some of us luck out with a concentrated area of grayness and are left with an amazing streak of gray running through your hair, while others go gray totally evenly and are left with an head of all over silver then there are those that go salt and pepper.  My parents were the latter.  

I noticed my first few strands of gray hair at 30.  I, of course, immediately dyed my hair back to my usual dark, glossy, black.  I continued to dye my hair to hide the increasing number of grays,  At first my gray hairs were concentrated to a couple of little patches and overtime they scattered all over my head.  The last time I dyed my hair was in mid-march.  I added some red streaks and covered my roots to hide all the grays.  They have now all grown back and I haven't dyed my hair since.  I now have a few inches of growth.  And I hate looking at them every day.

I don't see my hair as badges of where I have been in life and all that I have accomplished.  I don't see it as being distinguished.  I don't see anything positive about the gray hair.  All I see is disruption in my normal, dark hair.  I see wirey strands at the top of my head and in my bangs.  I see myself aging right before my eyes.  

I don't feel like I should have gray hairs.  My mom, till this day, dyes her hair and is in complete denial about her grays.  My dad has had salt and pepper hair since his 40s and he is now 60.  Occasionally he will dye it but that's only because he's going on tour or is being filmed for something.  It really shouldn't be a surprise that I'm going gray at my age, but I don't have to be happy about it.

I want to be comfortable and just own the grays and just give no fucks about it but i'm not there yet.  I have taken the first step and chosen not to cover them anymore.  I feel that is just a losing battle because I am then part of the cycle.  Dying my roots every few weeks to hide a part of me.  I have a vision and that includes just letting it grow in and just be what it is.  As I get more grays I want to eventually get a great layered haircut and then just bleach out the dark hair and dye the dark silver to blend with the grays rather than the other way around.  I feel this route would call for less dying over all since any new growth would likely be dark roots, which is cool with me, and any new grays and gray growth will just blend right in.

I've been in talks with my hairdresser about this and she like it.  Although she confirmed what I thought, I have to live with my grays and just let them be.  Let them grow and fill in as much as possible and then I can turn myself into a silver fox!


Sartorial Thrusday: Fall Supplements

It's bittersweet knowing that summer wear will be going away and that i'll be welcoming fall.  With that, it'll be time to rotate my clothing.  It's always exciting to welcome sweaters and boots.  However, it never fails that I will need to toss out some items that no longer fit or have seen better days and of course this will leave holes in my basic cool weather gear.  I'm not going to lie, it's always nice to add in a few new items to freshen up my wardrobe.  Here are some of the items on my fall wish list.  And c'mon look at that cape dress!!!  Need. Need. Need!!!  And that adorable Wednesday Addams dress will be mine by mid-october!

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